Many years ago my aunt and uncle decided it was time to find a group home for my cousin. The search took 10 years to find the ideal group home. It was, and still is, a perfect fit. The decision was difficult but they knew it was needed so all family members would know he would be happy and well cared for if they were ever unable to care for him. Below is a link that might be helpful to you or others who might need to make these decisions.

http://www.friendshipcircle.org/blog/2012/06/12/10-must-have-documents-for-parents-of-children-with-special-needs/#.VLPT0mBjzOQ.email